Attracting Positive Thoughts Towards You Today

The Law of Attraction, esoteric magic, quantum theory and studies of the mind accept that we create our reality based on our thoughts. So why is it that we can think the perfect reality in our minds, focus on our goals, positive intentions and what we want all day and night, and yet we STILL manifest a load of problems in our life? Why don’t we manifest what we want? Why do people treat us badly? If we’ve all been thinking such positive thoughts, why are so many struggling financially for years? Why do bad things happen even when you have been thinking good things?

 

 

One of the answers is that many of our thoughts are not consciously generated. As many as 95% of our thoughts are beyond our conscious awareness of them. It is impossible to become conscious of all our thoughts, so we need other ways of mastering them. #livingfromchoice

 

In addition to those unconscious thoughts we are bombarded with “thought-forms” from around us. Every thought we think is radiated out into the Universe. When you combine a strong thought with  high energy (emotion) it is called a “thought-form” aka "mental-intention". It is as if the thought has taken form – which often it does. It takes form in your mind, which effects your emotions and then takes form in your physical reality.  #7-UniversalLaws

 

This is fine if the thought is what you want. But what if it is a thought that you don’t want?

 

How can you remain immune to unwanted thought-forms or random intentions?

 

The power of a thought-form to penetrate your mind depends on several things: its energy, your energy (vibration), your thoughts and your emotions.

 

Everyone is sending out thought-forms all the time. Although many are sent out without the sender even being aware of what they are doing, they can be used consciously. You can increase the power of a thought form with certain energy techniques and they can be used to heal or to harm.

 

If your vibration is “higher” than the thoughts-form, it will bounce off you, but when your energy is “lower” than these thoughts, you can absorb it and start thinking it as if it were your own. You may never know where the thought came from.

 

DO'S & DON'TS FOR STAYING IMMUNE FROM HARMFUL THOUGHT FORMS:

• Do raise your energy/VIBRATION. Breathing is a great way to do this.
• Do meditate to increase your spiritual energy and mental clarity.
• Don’t accept the thoughts and beliefs of others. Any time you hear a belief or thought that you know will limit you in some way, make a conscious choice to dismiss it.
• Do become aware of your emotions. Keep an emotional journal if needed. Every time you feel an emotion, positive or negative detail the time; situation and what caused you to choose to feel that emotion. This will help you to track your internal thoughts and the external triggers for your emotional responses.
• Don’t blame others. Any time you blame others you weaken your energy. In fact you are giving your energy to them when you do this it increases their ability to send you thought-forms. This is true even for people you don’t know e.g. the government, or those in the financial services industry. Don’t feed them with your energy.
• Do take responsibility for your own thoughts and emotions. You have a CHOICE about every thought you think and emotion you feel. No-one else is in charge of your mind or feelings, you are.
• Don’t blame yourself. You current situation was created in the past. If you knew then what you know now you would not have created this, so blaming yourself is self-destructive. Blaming yourself for your past choices stops you taking action and making better choices. Also drains your energy and makes you vulnerable to further harmful thought patterns.
• Do start making better choices by increasing your awareness and self-awareness. Pay attention to your experiences, life and how you feel. Any time you feel an emotion ask yourself what caused you to choose to feel that way.
• Don’t deny the way you feel or suppress your emotions. If you feel a negative or painful thought allow yourself to feel it and learn to identify the source of your emotions.  Recognize the thought that is generating the emotion you are experiencing.

For more information on how you can master the effect of thought forms visit:  www.LivingFromChoice.com

Mindfulness Reduces Stress

Researchers can’t seem to get enough of mindfulness these days. Studies have linked it to heightened creativity, improved concentration, lower stress, better working memory, and increased compassion. Now, new research also shows that it helps us overcome biases we’re not even aware we have.
The study, published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, suggests that mindfulness meditation can reduce implicit bias—and the negative behaviors that it causes.

There are competing definitions of what mindfulness means, but it boils down to paying attention to what’s happening around you at any given moment, instead of operating on autopilot. By concentrating on the present, you’re more likely to act thoughtfully, and therefore less likely to succumb to automatic reactions based on previously established experiences.

Older studies have connected mindfulness with reduced automatic processing and less prejudicial behavior, but researchers Adam Lueke and Bryan Gibson found that mindfulness can also lessen implicit bias. Implicit attitudes are based on automatic associations, and they influence behavior more than we realize. Even as we assert egalitarian values or condemn discrimination, automatic processing often colors how we evaluate and treat others.

Lueke and Gibson explain that a group who listened to a 10-minute mindfulness exercise exhibited less bias on the race and age implicit association tests (IATs) than those who didn’t—without even focusing on the biases themselves.

The 72 participants were white college students who didn’t know what was being studied beforehand. The test group listened to a recording that made them aware of their heart rate and breathing. It told them to accept these sensations and thoughts “without restriction, resistance, or judgment.” The control group listened to a 10-minute recording about history. Then both groups completed the race and age IATs, which captured response times in pairing positive or negative words with black or white faces and then with old or young faces.

The mindful group showed less implicit racial and age bias than did the control group, and this was, in part, due to a reduction in the automatic activation of negative associations (i.e., black-bad, old-bad). This confirmed older research that mindfulness makes one less reliant on previously established associations. But the researchers were surprised to also find that the mindful group was less able to see differences between the faces than the control group, which seems to suggest that when you’re less likely to automatically associate black and old with “bad,” race and age are also less detectable.
The ability to curb implicit bias and weaken negative associations by simply being more mindful could help prevent all kinds of negative effects. Previous research has shown how implicit out-group bias can make someone more likely to shoot at a black suspect in a simulation or become more aggressive in a video game.

Implicit attitudes even predict some negative behaviors in the workplace better than explicit attitudes. For example, they are more predictive of discriminatory hiring decisions, lack of trust in out-group members, and hostile body language toward stereotyped group members. As Lueke explained, “People high in implicit bias will tend to maintain distance, not make as much eye contact, fidget, remain terse in their responses, and generally give non-verbal cues that are indicative of discomfort.” And this happens even if they consciously want to communicate in a non-biased way.

So how do you become more mindful? We often have other things on our mind regardless of whether we are at work or not; our to do lists, that date we went on the night before, mulling over that crazy episode of ‘The Walking Dead’ we saw, wondering what we are going to have for dinner tonight. Silencing and focusing these thoughts is a practice. But even if you’re busy, there are really basic steps you can take—anywhere, anytime—to make you more aware of the present.  Simply stop, bring your mind into the moment it is in, right here and you will feel yourself get present.  Like any muscle though, challenge is strengthening that ability through consistent use.

Past experiences have a way of influencing our decisions and immediate reactions in ways we don’t fully understand and may not even realize. It’s important to acknowledge this and find ways of making ourselves less reliant on them.  For more information on this visit:  www.LivingFromChoice.com

Time to Close the Gap

Do we really need to make "courteous engagement" a part of our employee handbooks?

It saddens me to see the continued separation we enforce with our fellow man in this society.  Something as simple as a parking place and it's an energetic fight to see who claims rights first or even worse yet, are you infringing on anothers boundaries by parking to close to the edges of the lines.  We walk through a store afraid to make eye contact, greeted by store clerks because it's actually been ordered in their training.  When asked, "may I be of assistance" we are programed to respond, "nope, I'm good" or "No Thank YOU" often diverting our eyes away from the person wanting to be of service.  Heck, I couldn't tell you how many times I've received change at a check out without a thank you or eye contact, just on to the next customer.  Do we really think this doesn't impact us long term?

Consider this scenario;  You awake from bed to a coffee pot that for whatever reason hasn't started.  Upon returning from your shower you realize that your significant other has taken most the coffee.  How do you feel?  Are you angry that they've taken more than there's by assuming?  What if they assumed you'd already gotten your coffee and knowing you don't normally take more they felt free to take what was left?  That simple scenario is grounded in scarcity and fear.  Fear that I won't get mine.  Fear I'm not important enough, fear I am not safe even.

Now, you just store this event in your fanny pack of objections that by the end of the day will be brimming with examples of how tough your day was.  And off to work you go.  On the road you experience a series of people who were completely checked out and half on their phones while driving thinking that just cause it's traffic and moving slow it can't be a hazard to text now.  No one even looking up or to the side anymore to be in relationship with the people in the car next to them.  You walk through work and get to your desk to be greeted by co-workers and the game of "who had a tougher morning starts"!  When did we decide it's beneficial to connect through our frustrations and miseries over our love and respect for one another??

After work you need to stop and get groceries, like more coffee!  LOL  You notice that the store clerks seem friendly and greet you every time they pass.  At first, you feel good at their friendliness.  But then it sets in that it's been placed in the company rule book to engage any customer within a few feet in a friendly manner.  Really???!!  Friendly, courteous and eye contact has to be put in the rule book??  That's as bad as the tag inside plastic bags that says "don't leave in the presence of an unattended child for fear of suffocation" 

As smart as our society has become technologically we've become dumber emotionally.  Our children know how to unlock a cellphone and find games before we will allow them to cross a street unattended.  We worry about SAT's and a college plan but invest very little if nothing in our youths emotional intelligence.  Teaching them how to connect with peers, why?  Because we as a society fear connection.  We wonder why bullying is at an all-time high in our schools.  Because we aren't connecting!!!

So, what...now what...
We must commit ourselves to begin the process of getting back to humans BEING instead of humans doing.  Each day to practice being connected.  Turn off your cell phone before dinner and don't turn it back on until the kids are in bed.  Look at your significant other as they lay sleeping in the morning instead of hitting your snooze alarm.  Speak to every person that you come in contact with for more than 3 minutes, and ask them a question about themselves.  Look people in the eyes when they speak to you.  And most of all...connect with you.  Look yourself in the eyes when you stare yourself in the mirror.  Hopefully each one of us brushes our teeth for at least a couple minutes...you gotta be there anyway, why not spend the time connecting with you?!  After all, if you won't be in a relationship with you, who the heck will???

Time Managment is PAINFUL: Real leaders do it anyway!

We all want to FEEL GOOD, and avoid feeling BAD. So we prefer that change be comfortable. Sometimes it is. Most of the time it’s not. As is so often said in the fitness world, “No pain, no gain.” You want to slim your waistline? Bigger muscles? You earn that progress through discomfort. You’re going to sweat, and it’s going to burn. Sure, you’ll feel great afterward, but the process is going to hurt. That’s how you know it’s working. That, and seeing the results when you stick with it over time.

Business change works exactly the same way. In my experience as a coach, it’s your relationship to discomfort that makes all the difference. Leadership is a challenge, so working on yourself as a leader should feel like a workout. You are intentionally doing things that make you uncomfortable to improve yourself and your business. It’s not easy. But it doesn’t have to lead to burnout. In fitness, it’s called over-training. In business, it’s called overwhelm.

Having more time in your day is right there for the taking, but you have to accept some discomfort to get there. Over the years, the most successful clients I’ve had are the ones willing to accept this short-term ‘pain’ for the long-term benefit.

 

Can you leave the house every morning in sixty minutes flat? Can you cut your lunches to thirty for a while? Can you say “No” to some brilliant and fun activities that you know you can’t really focus on? Can you train someone on your staff today to handle three things that you know you shouldn’t be dealing with as the business leader? Are you willing to post office hours for the only times of the day where employees can interrupt you?

… it’s your relationship to discomfort that makes all the difference.

Some of these things may sound easy, but putting it into practice is another story. Going out of our normal routine can be very uncomfortable. Just remember why you’re doing this – it’s in the best interest of the business and you as the owner.

In the end, you’ll realize that “I don’t have time” is almost never true, it’s just that you haven’t yet made the difficult choices about how you use your time. And making those choices is the first step to creating a business that works.

Not enough sales, people problems, cash flow issues, etc. – are all symptoms – they’re all a call to face the discomfort directly and solve it first by making the time. Then you’ll have your strength to be able to lift the real weights of finance or management systems or whatever your business needs next. It all begins with you.

TIME TO GET HONEST & MAKE THE CHANGE

It's already half way through April and as I listen to conversations happening around me in public I'm reminded of the frantic pace we all are in.  It's as if life is speeding up and we are getting less and less done, yet seem to feel more and more stressed out.  Even my own internal conversations have taken a sometimes perverse twist.  The voice of sabotage has called in for backup...hell my voices have voices now!  LOL

I took a long, honest look at myself this past month.  My results; health, wealth, business, relationships.  All were put under the microscope and I was left feeling disappointed that I too had allowed myself to get 'busy' without generating the results I said I was focused on creating at the beginning of the year.  Oh who am I kidding, even last month I said I would create.  Don't get me wrong, there are areas I am locked in and on point around my goals.  But others have been pushed to the side, blanketed in excuses and reasons why I haven't....

So here I am, and if your reading this, here you are...

...Time to get honest...

Where do you need to make the change?
What do you need to give up to get back on track with what you said you wanted to create?

Take an inventory of all the prices you will pay if you fail at your goal, and you better include how you will feel about yourself.

Then take an inventory of all the payoffs you will gain in the success of your goal, and how can you place a price on self esteem.  The greatest benefit of following through with our dreams and desires is how we feel about ourselves, which ultimately spreads out to those that love us.  I mean, who doesn't enjoy watching someone they love succeed in life?!?!

If you consistently struggle to make the end zone in your goals you may consider doing some formal training.  Visit:  www.LivingFromChoice.com and learn what keeps sabotaging your success and happiness!

Radio Show: INTEGRITY is forever!

Success may come and go...but INTEGRITY is forever.  Enjoy this weeks show with my special guest Janet Henze as we talk about leadership of self, balance and authentic power.

Sometimes staying right where you are is the best plan...

Is it just me or is there a vibration of discontent, dis-ease, irritability and even a feeling of almost being caged and a desire to run going on with people right now?

I am normally a very grounded and fluid individual and I'm even feeling it.  This unsettled, missing out on something...Like that nagging feeling you've left something on back at home?  What is it and how do we deal with it?  Everything and everyone seems to be speeding up at a dramatic pace, especially in the city.  Yet there is this draw to calm down and enjoy life again.  A question of what does it all mean and what is it for keeps coming to the lips of people I'm working with.  There seems to be a consciousness about to shift.

I've always found that the more I am frantically trying to do or go somewhere the more I need to stop and stand right where I am, get present in the moment and enjoy all that is around me.  Enjoying my surroundings as simple as birds singing in the morning daylight or the sound of the trees whistling as wind flows between the leaves.  Get present and connect, connect to the nature around you, and if you don't have any--find some!

Same rule applies if you are faced with many challenges and options.  Jumping in any direction can end badly if it is a fearful side making your decisions for you.  Staying right where you are, as uncomfortable as it can be, is often the most empowering position to take.  Get calm and present into "what is" right now and then weigh all your options, choose from a place of power and possibility instead of jumping in fear to avoid the discomfort of what is going on.  And if it is a flood of challenges you are faced with right now, choose the next logical step.  After all, if you've ever found yourself caught in a riptide or in big surf just off the shore you don't fight your way through it.  Instead you relax in the rhythm of the ocean and when you feel strong and have a clear direction you make a move.  Do the same in your life and soon you will be enjoying the view from the shore and not struggling in the surf anymore.